Why Do We Always Feel We Must #Express Harsh Negativity? | #Expression #FreedomOfExpression #ExpressYourself

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The negativity that my fellow survivors & I commonly express—Loneliness. Oh, we're not "without friends or family who sacrifice a good amount of their time to make sure we're relatively comfortable"; but 'lonely' in the same sense that Adam was lonely before he found Eve—no Spouse, no one whom we can make the claim "You are Flesh-of-my-Flesh & Bones-of-my-Bones! So You Go with Me!"

And we lament that lack. As we are not able to provide crucial things people look-for in a marital partner, we feel "unworthy"—like we'll never earn the companionship our uninjured fellow-citizens seem to have in abundance ...

More on that lamentation later, but first ... 'That word' (below-hyperlinked to ) is built on an even-deeper source ... something crucial that firms the foundation upon which our lexicon stands ...

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The word “Express” is built on words that mean “to |Strike, Press- or |Push-|Out (or Ex-)" (or Hold Fast, |Cover, Crowd, |Compress)

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Maybe that 'harsh prophecy of doom for us survivors' is an accurate description of the way marriage is; but we are often cautioned against expressing such observations, because ... they are often said to be "self-fulfilling prophecies"—you hear one of us talk about how we'll always be alone, and–although you may respond with, "Oh, there's got to be somebody out there for you!"–your subconscious reads that first statement and believes it as "absolute truth" unless you 'verbally' (or at least 'in writing') "negate that claim."

Many times, I'll 'express a negative observation' (a bad habit I'm trying to break), in the hope that somebody will negate that claim! That brings me to The Reason Why We Should Express our Negative Observations: because if we do not express those claims, they cannot be denied & our subconscious minds will then ruminate on them as if they are true (they probably aren't true, but our subconscious minds firmly believe them!)

For instance: I am not 'dating anyone' (I'm not even sure if that's the right way to say it ... I think we kids used to call it "going steady with my girlfriend"). I never had a driver's license (or a car or enough extra money to afford to go out on dates), so to me 'dating' is a tale-of-legend–sort of an update on 'the caveman clubbing his maiden & dragging her back to his cave (after a brief stop at the Parson's Office)'–where a young man with a car can take his favorite girl out to eat, -out to a movie, -out to mini-golf, -out to the root-beer stand-etc.-etc., until they go -out to The Chapel of Love & live together happily-ever-after.

That was back when a single-income household was-"normal" and not -"below the poverty-line." As the caveman 'wooed' his mate with the deft strike of the club (proving he could effectively protect her and trap the couple's food), the car-keys and dating "proved" the man could provide transportation and sustanence and shelter and security for the young woman to cook & clean for him.

But now, I don't know ... can one man's income still pay for all the things he-, his wife- and the children-need? Or are women becoming "more equal"—people to whom the "Biblical" rule applies:

"If they do not choose to work, neither let them eat."

What–then–do men & women need each other for?

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... But back to 'what I was talking-about': Why we Survivors should- or shouldn't-express our lamentations at "what might be the-way-of-the-world."

We Should

because it signals our 'friends & family' (our 'caregivers?') that we believe things ... things that need to be confirmed or denied before our subconscious minds ruminate them into firm belief.

We Shouldn't

because most of our caregivers 'have more important things to worry-about (their own survival, people who depend on them for their survival) and are too busy to worry about our little discontent after they've made sure we'll survive'

(See! There I go again! I know my happiness is worth as much as that of any other human! I know all our friends & family-members want each of our hearts to overflow with the satisfaction of loving as we would be loved! But ... 'actions speak, drowning-out all the well-meaning words' ...

(... or maybe the actions just momentarily drown-out the words—interrupting them; but if we are patient and heed-&-remember the words, we can use them to keep the actions from going too far!) I should've said 'We Shouldn't because "our caregivers trust us to deny all that negativity (the way we deny The Grave) and to be so busy expressing Health & Blessing & Victory & Happiness & Fun & Humor & Love & Goodness that we can't find TIME to express any displeasure!"

Or am I looking at that wrong (or 'wrongly' 🤓)? Tell
 me how-wrong/right I am in the comments below 😁