#StagesOfGrief in the #CycleOfGrief - Because We've got to #Grieve our Dead Past so that we Don't Build Our Future on it! | #Grief #Grieves #Grieved #Grieving #GoodGrief #ThoroughlyGrieved #Grievous #Griever #Grievance

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I'll list & explain the stages of grief; but first I want to understand that word better. And I find you understand words better if you look at 'the words at their base' (then going on to look at the words at those words' bases, then the words at those words' bases, etc.-etc. ad infinitum)
The word "Grief" carries the scent of "Weighty" (Heavy ... the root-word resembles Grave, Gravity).
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I think it's important to know the Stages in the Grieving 'Cycle' (mixing 'the stages Kübler-Ross (MD) wrote about in her On Death and Dying' with a few more stages modern psychology adds ... yes, these stages are also called a 'process'; but that implies 'a start and a finish,' when real grief is actually 'a recurring symptom of our linear existence!'

(And the grief-cycle applies to almost all 'significant personal losses in life'—from death-in-the-family to divorce & disability & unemployment & personal sickness etc.)
  • Denial (after the Shock or Disbelief) - something in you thinks it can 'wish away' the tragedy, making-believe that 'it never happened'
  • Anger - seeking vengeance after 'something that shouldn't have happened' happened anyway
  • Bargaining - when you realize that vengeance doesn't bring the balance our simple minds think it should (if something of mine is destroyed, why don't I feel repaid when I destroy something of yours?), you start to think of 'good results of the bad thing that happened,' but you don't feel like you've "gotten back" what you lost.
  • Guilt & More Anger - trespasses beget more trespasses
  • Depression - repeatedly trying & failing to fill 'that empty space' makes you feel doomed to hopelessness ...
  • Acceptance/Hope - ... until you accept that the tragedy is just a gift you don't understand yet, and the only way to improve future-gifts is to learn to use all the present-gifts you like (and to let past gifts pass away)

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