Did @GeorgeMofficial infect Men's Minds with #ToxicMasculinity (the kind @DeonCole points out)? #GeorgeMichael #FatherFigure #Toxic #Masculinity #Toxicity #Masculine #ity #ty

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Whem I think about 'the kind of man I want to be,' the term "Father Figure" (probably 'etched in my mind' by the George Michael song of the same name).

The song sounds honest enough–pure intentions at the start (of the relationship), with the additional intention of 'being that support "`til the end of time"–but I'm not sure if it addresses 'the hard work required from both parties' ... I dunno; we'll review the lyrics in a bit ...

But if I'm right, and the song doesn't address that work; it might explain 'why men turn into the dead-weight that Deon Cole talks about in COLE HEARTED'—when he's sympathizing with women who had big dreams before they fell in love with men who wouldn't let them climb the heights of their dreams ... men infected with 'toxic masculinity?' (or at least 'a form of toxic masculinity).

'The words of that term' are built on an even-deeper source ... something crucial that firms the foundation upon which the our lexicon stands ...

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The word “Toxic” is built on “Poison on the tip of an Archer's Arrow (probably made of Yew-Wood, shot from a Bow)” (to Run, Flee).

The word "Masculinity" is built on Foundations beneath "Male Person" (having Qualities of the Male Sex's Gender, Virility, Power (Mentally or Physically), the adjective patterning-after Feminine) + -ity (Word-Forming Element making Abstract Nouns from Adjectives, the new words meaning "Quality or Condition of Being ________").

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so–ignoring Mr. Michael's personal lifestyle-choices (sorta like one does with Bill Cosby in order to enjoy the high-quality comedy he put out for his whole career) and ignoring the possible-sense of 'doom & gloom' of the video's ending–

Let's examine those lyrics:

Father Figure

George Michael

That's all I wanted
Something special, something sacred
In your eyes 

For just one moment
To be bold and naked
At your side 

Sometimes I think that you'll never
Understand me
Maybe this time is forever
Say it can be, whoa 

That's all you wanted
Something special, someone sacred
In your life 

Just for one moment
To be warm and naked
At my side 

Sometimes I think that you'll never
Understand me
But something tells me together
We'd be happy, oh oh
(Baby) 

I will be your father figure
(Oh baby)
Put your tiny hand in mine
(I'd love to)
I will be your preacher teacher
(Be your daddy)
Anything you have in mind
(It would make me)
I will be your father figure
(Very happy)
I have had enough of crime
(Please let me)
I will be the one who loves you
'Til the end of time 

That's all I wanted
But sometimes love can be mistaken
For a crime 

That's all I wanted
Just to see my baby's
Blue eyes shine 

This time I think that my lover
Understands me
If we have faith in each other
Then we can be
Strong, baby 

I will be your father figure
Put your tiny hand in mine
I will be your preacher teacher
Anything you have in mind
I will be your father figure
I have had enough of crime
I will be the one who loves you
'Til the end of time 

If you are the desert
I'll be the sea
If you ever hunger
Hunger for me
Whatever you ask for
That's what I'll be 

So when you remember the ones who have lied
Who said that they cared
But then laughed as you cried
Beautiful darling
Don't think of me
Because all I ever wanted
It's in your eyes, baby
And love can't lie, no
(Greet me with the eyes of a child)
My love is always tellin' me so
(Heaven is a kiss and a smile)
Just hold on, hold on
I won't let you go, my baby 

I will be your father figure
Put your tiny hand in mine
I will be your preacher teacher
Anything you have in mind, baby
I will be your father figure
I have had enough of crime
(So I am gonna love you)
'Til the end of time 

I will be your father
I will be your preacher
I will be your daddy, whoa
I will be the one who loves you 'til the end of time
Songwriters: GEORGE MICHAEL
© Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
For non-commercial use only.
Data from: LyricFind

You can see how the video ends with 'the character played by George Michael' lonely & wishing he had "you" (the girl he wanted to guide & support) back—giving us the idea that maybe the main character was only imagining meeting the girl and 'being her father-figure' until she rose to a level where he couldn't follow.

I hear a husband is supposed to fill 'the role of "father"' in his wife's life—confirmed (to me, at-least) by the tradition of 'a father "giving the bride away" to the groom.'

But (as you can see in the 'meme') 'father' is only one of the roles a husband has to play (probably best represented by "support" and "comfort" in the 'meme').

I've also heard he's supposed to be a "brother" (like Abram (Abraham) claimed to be when Sarai (Sarah) & he visited Egypt's royalty ... or a better example: Donny & Marie ... I know they actually are brother-&-sister (with no danger of 'incest' goin` on); but don't tell me you didn't first think they were husband-&-wife (if you hadn't first seen them when they were children singing in The Osmonds)!)

Those are the only two roles I know how to play—if you don't count Uncle (another form of the 'Father'-role) or Cousin, Classmate or Friend (other forms of 'Brother').

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But the crucial thing  (maybe more 'reminding myself of this' than "informing anyone else" ... especially "on a blog"—I mean, Who reads blogs today? when there are tons of less-intrusive, more-attractive 'news sources' out there) is that a woman wants a man who can be more than just a "special," "sacred" character from their past; she wants a man whom she can depend-on—a man who is dependably 'consistent.'

That is where I think I messed up. Lacking the patience to 'do the standard "working man"-thing' (especially since I'm in advanced stages of recovery from my traumatic brain-injury (walking & talking & eating etc. fairly independently after an injury that had once turned me into a comatose vegetable)),

... I thought I was "smart" to 'just skip to the end' and–rather than go through all that 'job-training' & 'resumé-filling & application-filling & tax-filing & stressing etc.–just 'retire' (okay, "go self-employed"—since 'retire' implies I have some "retirement-income" stored somewhere) and do what I'm doing now—blogging, chatting on Facebook, watching T.V. & movies, sometimes going out to the store, -to the doctor, -to my TBI Survivor Support-Group, -to various TBI Survivor activities my pathology-friends put together for my fellow-survivors & me.

But that (my situation) is not what a woman wants to marry! She wants a man she can grow with (or possibly whom she has always grown with ... why a lot of the women in my life end up marrying their classmates or their careers' early co-workers)

Or maybe I'm looking at it wrong—that's one reason
 Our Father God said "It is not good for the man to be
 alone":  "Because the man'll think he's right until someone else shows

 him why he's not"—Won't you show me
 if I'm right-or-wrong in the comments below?