Well, I have that problem; and thus I see that "the other two I mentioned" also 'have that problem' (though they probably aren't "conscious" of it—like I've been doing for far too long, they just continue "being what they are (and not paying too much attention to 'what people think they ought to be')"; but you can only judge them by 'matching them with "what you want them to be"' ...
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"All I really want ... All you really want ..." I want to be helpful to you, in getting what you want. But how can I be helpful if you don't tell me 'what you want'?
(Maybe that's the reason church-leaders try to convince people that "you have to pray for the help you need"—so that they'll believe 'Our Father God listens to prayers,' when in all likelihood he gives blessings with "no respect for persons, giving to the righteous just as quickly as to the unrighteous.")
"All I really want ... All you really want ..." I want to be helpful to you, in getting what you want. But how can I be helpful if you don't tell me 'what you want'?
(Maybe that's the reason church-leaders try to convince people that "you have to pray for the help you need"—so that they'll believe 'Our Father God listens to prayers,' when in all likelihood he gives blessings with "no respect for persons, giving to the righteous just as quickly as to the unrighteous.")
The word “Want” is built on “to Lack” (Leave, Abandon, Desire, Wish for, Feel the Need for, Deficiency, Shortage, Wane, Diminish, state of Destitution, Poverty, Deprivation).
But 'what I want more' conflicts with my "desire to be helpful to you"—my desire for 'peace' (or 'being satisfied with my current situation (whatever situation I'm in)'). I can be helpful if you come to me and take me with you, but I lack peace if I'm too busy following you around on the off-chance you can use the help I might be able to provide.
My 'desire for peace' stems from the idea that 'the destination is the reason for making the journey—that–if you can get there as-soon-as-possible–you can get more done there in preparation for everyone else to arrive' (which I connect to the Book of Ecclesiastes–where The Teacher (King Solomon, we suppose) explains that all the high-profile glamour & feats-of-derring-do & victorious conquests & devotional sacrifices he made in his life ... they all amount to 'a whole lotta nothing' ("Vanity of Vanities!")–
but which are most-likely drawn from living in a culture where 'the winners' are constantly those who finish first (though I'm sure you can give me at least one case where 'someone who finished later or -last was the one who finished best; but What kind of "glory" can last-place give God?).
I suppose I 'developed' this philosophy (in 'developmental stages of my teenage years') through a habit "everybody knew" I practiced—running (from classroom-to-classroom, through the parks, on the fields, across the streets (only in the crosswalks), etc.)
My personal practice of this philosophy is built on a memory etched in my brain: I was fourteen, at 'drum camp' (a week of fraternity & practice for my high-school marching-band's drumline, of which I was a freshman-member). At lunch, we had some 'initiation-contests'; and the first one was a footrace through Dolese Park (a park across the street from the school, with running-trails winding around within).
The upper-classmen had us freshmen set at the starting-line, and told us that–when they told us to go–we were to run to the park-entrance. And the first one there wouldn't have to do any of the other initiation-tasks.
I was feeling "smart"—I wanted to "cheat," but I didn't want to "break the rules"; so I verified 'my understanding of the rules': "We start right here," ? ... yes, "and the first one to the entrance wins," ? ... yes.
So I set myself on the track next to my fellow freshmen. And the upper-classman set us off, "Ready ... Set ... Go!"
And I gave the other freshmen a few seconds' start down the trail–the long trail that wound around the park & eventually came to the park-entrance–before I set off for the park-entrance ... on a path about 90° off the trail, directly to the entrance.
I got there first, earning the nickname "Speedy" and sitting out of the rest of the freshman initiation-contests.
... a bit of a tangent, there; but the purpose was to show how my young brain got 'branded' with the affirmation that 'my path–the more-direct path–was the right path for me—maybe those on the long-and-winding path "had more fun" or "gained more strength" or "were more-fulfilled"; but that would be the wrong path for me.'
Taking the 'more-direct' path (and staying on it because of my lack of ability), I skipped the lifelong career & went straight for 'retirement' (although I usually say I'm "self-employed," as 'retirement' implies "money coming from an account I paid-into for decades" rather than "the account someone else pays into").
But–doing that–I missed 'the things people are supposed to develop in their spare time during their lifelong careers'—especially 'finding a spouse, having children & raising them to become members of the society of the future.' (I think that's why I tried (for a month)- and failed to hold a job a few years ago—ostensibly to "bear the same burden" as my future spouse, in order to meet her & court her & marry her.)
My 'desire for peace' stems from the idea that 'the destination is the reason for making the journey—that–if you can get there as-soon-as-possible–you can get more done there in preparation for everyone else to arrive' (which I connect to the Book of Ecclesiastes–where The Teacher (King Solomon, we suppose) explains that all the high-profile glamour & feats-of-derring-do & victorious conquests & devotional sacrifices he made in his life ... they all amount to 'a whole lotta nothing' ("Vanity of Vanities!")–but which are most-likely drawn from living in a culture where 'the winners' are constantly those who finish first (though I'm sure you can give me at least one case where 'someone who finished later or -last was the one who finished best; but What kind of "glory" can last-place give God?).
I suppose I 'developed' this philosophy (in 'developmental stages of my teenage years') through a habit "everybody knew" I practiced—running (from classroom-to-classroom, through the parks, on the fields, across the streets (only in the crosswalks), etc.)
My personal practice of this philosophy is built on a memory etched in my brain: I was fourteen, at 'drum camp' (a week of fraternity & practice for my high-school marching-band's drumline, of which I was a freshman-member). At lunch, we had some 'initiation-contests'; and the first one was a footrace through Dolese Park (a park across the street from the school, with running-trails winding around within).
The upper-classmen had us freshmen set at the starting-line, and told us that–when they told us to go–we were to run to the park-entrance. And the first one there wouldn't have to do any of the other initiation-tasks.
I was feeling "smart"—I wanted to "cheat," but I didn't want to "break the rules"; so I verified 'my understanding of the rules': "We start right here," ? ... yes, "and the first one to the entrance wins," ? ... yes.
So I set myself on the track next to my fellow freshmen. And the upper-classman set us off, "Ready ... Set ... Go!"
I got there first, earning the nickname "Speedy" and sitting out of the rest of the freshman initiation-contests.
... a bit of a tangent, there; but the purpose was to show how my young brain got 'branded' with the affirmation that 'my path–the more-direct path–was the right path for me—maybe those on the long-and-winding path "had more fun" or "gained more strength" or "were more-fulfilled"; but that would be the wrong path for me.'
Taking the 'more-direct' path (and staying on it because of my lack of ability), I skipped the lifelong career & went straight for 'retirement' (although I usually say I'm "self-employed," as 'retirement' implies "money coming from an account I paid-into for decades" rather than "the account someone else pays into").
But–doing that–I missed 'the things people are supposed to develop in their spare time during their lifelong careers'—especially 'finding a spouse, having children & raising them to become members of the society of the future.' (I think that's why I tried (for a month)- and failed to hold a job a few years ago—ostensibly to "bear the same burden" as my future spouse, in order to meet her & court her & marry her.)
Or maybe I'm looking at it wrong—that's one reason
Our Father God said "It is not good for the man to be
alone": "Because the man'll think he's right until someone else shows
Our Father God said "It is not good for the man to be
alone": "Because the man'll think he's right until someone else shows
him why he's not"—Won't you show me
if I'm right-or-wrong in the comments below?
if I'm right-or-wrong in the comments below?
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