#Negativity that We Overcome with #Positivity @BIAamerica @braininjury_CAN @braininjuryhub @cbituk #Negative #Positive #Negativities #Positivities #Negation #Positivism #Negativism

At support-group the other night, we were given a list of 7 TYPES OF NEGATIVITY TO KILL:

1. PERFECTIONISM
   Trying to achieve something that's literally unattainable will only result in you feeling "less than."
2. JUDGEMENT OVER YOURSELF AND OTHERS
   When you are judgemental, you are only focusing on the negative qualities in yourself and others.
3. SELF-DOUBT
   Self-doubt is a weed that will take over your life if you don't kill it at the root.
4. ASSUMING THE WORST WILL HAPPEN
   If you never think things will be better, they won't be. This removes hope.
5. WORRY
   Worrying changes nothing except your health & mental state.
6. COMPLAINING
   When you focus on the negative things, you are really setting yourself up for never being content or happy.
7. TRYING TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
   
   You can't control everything, and–when you try & inevitably fail–you will only blame yourself

I'm sure these negativities occur in the lives of all sorts of people, but most people have 'people in their lives' who help them rediscover their positivities (either 'on purpose' (by praising their past accomplishments & their progress toward future accomplishments) or 'incidentally' (by relying on them)).

Even most brain-injury survivors have such 'people in their lives.' Perfect example (aside from Orlando Bloom and numerous other survivors who've recovered to acheive success even-beyond that which non-injured people ever reach): Emilia Clarke. 

For one thing, you probably wouldn't even know about her brain-injury if you didn't watch the news. (Now that I think about it, I can't think of any other news I've heard about her 🙄) Even though I know her recovery took a lot of therapy-etc., I still get the feeling that 'all she had to do to recover' was "sleep it off."

But some of us-survivors (or 'most of us-survivors,' if you take the post-TBI divorce-rate as a sign of most people's view), have to 'kill the negativity with little-to-no help from others' and we have to take a step or three on the road to recovery before others in our lives will see that we're going up with-or-without-them and -will choose to join us on the path (supporting us when we weaken, and being supported by us when they need a little rest).

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The word “Negative” carries the scent of “|Deny, |Say |No.” 

The word “Positive” carries the scent of “to |Put, Place” (Position).

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I feel like I ought to clarify: just because 'most people' aren't going to want to hear about the negative side of things, it doesn't mean that we-survivors should pretend that negative-things never happened. I guess I'm saying something more like, 'Focus on "the goal" (giving glory to God, honoring your father and mother, being fruitful, multiplying, etc.), and view the negatives as more "obstacles for you to overcome" than "dead ends that stop your progress forever".'