#Failure to Launch: My #FearOfMissingOut on Finding "The One" for Me, due to ... #FOMO #Fail #Failing #Fails

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I saw this BuzzFeed-article about 'the sweet stories of when couples realized they were each-other's "One," and–of course I'm happy for them and glad they had that luck–part of me is going "Yeah, but where's mine (and where will she find me)?"

Then a fear comes to mind—the fear that I have met my"One," and that I then proceeded to say or do something stupid that turned her away before we could 'realize that we were each-other's "One."'

I search to find out if there's a word for that kind of fear–a 'missing the chance to forge a relationship with my soulmate'-o-phobia–and the closest thing I can find is Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO)—a Pervasive Apprehension that others are having Rewarding Experiences from which I-myself am Absent.

I thought I'd search one more time, and tried 'Fear Of Missing Your Soulmate.' That brought up a lot of articles about "How to Know the Person You're Involved with is your soulmate." It also brought up an article on 'what it feels like to meet your soulmate.'
Then the 'reasoning' and/or 'jealous' part of my mind swoops in & reminds me that "soulmates" are kind of a myth ... that is, EVERYONE is EVERYONE'S soulmate, if they can change themselves/one-another to fit together well.

I remember asking my godfather, 'How did you & my godmother end up together?' (what I actually said may've been 'How did you marry my godmother?') And he replied, "She asked me, and I said 'Yes.'"

Granted, that was probably after they had been dating for 'a while' (a month? a week? a year?); and I can't date (not the same way they did, where the guy takes the gal out to dinner & dancing etc.) But I wasn't thinking of that, and was sure a worthy woman would find me (probably at a survivor support-group or retreat/camp) and find a way to 'ask me, and I say "yes"' from there.

But so far most of the 'gals who might've asked me' have failed to see the chance they had, and/or I failed to see the signs they were giving that I should've asked them.

'That word' is built on an even-deeper source ... something crucial that firms the foundation upon which the our lexicon stands ...
The word “Failure” is built on “to |Trip, Cause to Fall ( |Deceive, |Trick, |Dupe, |Cheat, |Elude, be Lacking or |Defective)” or "to |Stumble" (Stagger, bring or throw |Down).




Or maybe I'm looking at it wrong—that's one reason
 Our Father God said "It is not good for the man to be
 alone":  "Because the man'll think he's right until someone else shows
 him why he's not"—Won't you show me
 if I'm right-or-wrong in the comments below?

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